Get Going Towards Happiness With This Jump Start

by Mike Lally on January 23, 2014

What can stop a person from finding and enjoying continual happiness in life? If you’re somewhat similar to many others it may well be that you are constrained by a limiting belief about what is possible for you. People are effective at building barriers around their thinking and this can act as a deterrent to the acceptance of themselves as worthy and deserving of consistent success in life.

If the desire to be happy or fulfilled was a simple case of consciously accepting it is your right I guess most of us would go ahead and make it happen. If conscious acceptance is the remedy why can’t we put this in place? Sadly, willingness and will-power fail to do the trick.
So, what’s the answer? In my view, by thinking differently and mentally entering into the world of possibility. In short, giving yourself permission to succeed. However, this can only be done through the unconscious part of your mind. Once conscious thinking gets in the way, in the blink of an eye we become saturated by our ongoing problems. Thus, there is a need to think, derive, and then mapping across a belief system that is rock-solid, and completely accepted by your unconscious mind. A touch of enthusiasm adds to this.

If you have limiting beliefs at the unconscious level, it will be difficult to move through your life in a state of happiness and possibility because your unconscious mind will manufacture obstacles to prevent you from finding the elusive obvious. Why does this happen? Well, at some level people refuse to believe that they have a right to get what they want and this includes being happy.
Even when people are aware something isn’t quite right they seem unable to understand what their intentions truly are. Contrarily, many people are perfectly aware of their intentions, but cannot find the will to overcome the barriers and obstacles that trip them up. A clearer understanding of the relationship between the conscious mind and unconscious mind can assist to break this down.

The problem is predicated around the belief many people have that they are already doing virtually everything they can to achieve a goal. Unfortunately, this is restricted to conscious thinking only, and is precisely where the difficulty lies. Why is this? Every goal you have is created consciously but achieved unconsciously. There will be some part of a person’s unconscious that fails to accept that they can and should achieve their aim – it is not deserved at some level.

Herein lies the problem: the aspect of any belief the unconscious does not accept is consciously avoided. Simply put, we suppress thoughts that trouble us. We don’t want to think about them and the more we do this the stronger the unconscious belief that it is something we do not deserve becomes. In fact, the more studiously we avoid the unconscious part, the more problems are likely to appear in our daily lives. Sadly, this is the way the mind seems to work.
The central premise behind a belief’s validity is rarely tackled. So, the core of the belief is never questioned.

It’s frankly amazing how quickly we have assembled a number of limiting beliefs and steadfastly refuse to question them. Often we can be unaware they even exist given some of these beliefs are buried deep within the unconscious. Where do these beliefs come from? Mainly from our upbringing. Beliefs are developed when we are least able to question their validity. They often stay with us for the rest of our lives. Having the courage to make an inventory of the beliefs that limit us and then making a determination to drop those that do not support positive change is something that consciously fails to register purposely enough. It’s not that they are intentionally avoided; they are just not rigorously considered.

Beliefs such as “I’m not good enough” or “I can’t find the right partner” or “I’m not clever” and so on are examples of cause and effect beliefs. This type of belief is incredibly common. Funnily enough, at some level there is the knowledge, however fleeting, that these beliefs are mere states of mind, but we do not persevere and question the essence of what they mean and why they are held on to.
Beliefs are notoriously groundless, questionable and antiquated, but they condition our lives. So, why not decide to tackle them? Most people tend to look for answers outside of themselves and ignore the truth that the solution generally lies within. If a belief has its origin in the past, why not allow yourself to evolve the belief forward to the “you of today” and decide whether it has any place in your present day life?

Once we begin to get at cause and understand that all of the effects of these beliefs in our lives are the result of prematurely and faulty thinking created a lifetime ago, we can address them unequivocally. Perhaps the starting point is to consider the limiting beliefs you have and make a list. Bear in mind many beliefs operate in a particular context and may not register consciously every day. Once this exercise is undertaken, ask yourself a simple question: “does this belief still hold true for me today?” then you can move on to asking yourself “what is possible for me?” You will soon create a new way of thinking and free yourself of a number of the self-imposed, mental straitjacket that is hampering your chances of finding and enjoying a more consistent state of happiness. This will result in a personal breakthrough. I will put forward a way of doing this next time.

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